I took a break from blogging because I had to digest and process what was going on in my life.
For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
Over the past few months I've taken a deeper look at relationships, life, love and what it truly means to be committed. When you are solely committed to another human being; you treasure that which is the other person's heart. If you take on a wife or a husband, God has trusted you to protect and treasure the other's person's heart. Meaning, you have to learn to nurture, feed and genuinely treasure the heart of another person. In some case this may be difficult for an immature person who is not ready to accept the challenge and responsibility.
So many times, selfishness consumes us and we forget the true purpose and intent of why God designed marriage. Some have taken a deeper look and they understand the purpose. They are building upon that knowing in the end; the journey is beautiful and worth it. At times, we forget to cultivate the heart and devalue the true treasure of what we have in front of us. I will always believe, when you treasure something; you hold it dear and refuse to let anything happen to it.
A while ago, someone asked me, how do you see marriage and this was my answer:
"Marriage is like building a quilt. You start with squares of all different sizes and maybe different shapes. Some of the patches may be lumpy and some may be smooth, but you are committed to joining them to finish a project even if they don't fit at times. In the end, although rough at times, you can sit back and marvel at the beautiful quilt (marriage) you built together."
Disclaimer: This can only work when selfishness is absent and self gratification is distant. If these two elements are present; it just doesn't work.
Learning to add laughter to your life can reduce so much stress. People ask me from time to time, how can you laugh or smile when things go bad for you? How do you maintain that positive attitude all the time?
In a few weeks we will be celebrating a day that everyone calls “the Love day”. Yes, thatinfamousday that most men dread - Valentines Day. I tease my husband as this day approaches because he feels that it’s just another money making holiday. He believes that the day is geared towards women, and will always be for women.
We often become so busy with careers, kids and whatever else is going on in our lives that we frequently forget about nurturing our relationships.
What is a toxic relationship? I define is as one that is draining an completely robbing you of every beautiful emotion that is associated with the word “love”. These relationships are hard to identify at times because one could think the relationship is normal. I made a list of 10 signs that will tell you if you are in a toxic relationship.
Sitting in the nail shop the other day, I had intended to relax and enjoy the quiet time since I was the only customer. In walks a lady who gracefully picked out her polish, plopped herself into the pedicure chair and off she went. I couldn’t help to over-hear the conversation between she and the manicurist. Apparently, the conversation was about men, relationships, and how you can’t just have one man. The lady went on to say “I just don’t know about getting married, but if I do, I’ll have to have a man on the side.” Now, my ears grew as big as 12 inch paper plates – because I had to hear the justification behind such an immoral statement. Of course, her reasoning came down to one thing – self gratification (all about what she could obtain).
I've been married for about 4 years now. Marriage is a journey, a learning experience and takes a lot of prayer and patience. If you are married, you will identify when i say, sometimes you have to pick and choose your battles. Marriage can be fun if you are both share the same purpose and goals for being together. Check out some of my relationship tips for anyone in a relationship.